I break his stuff

[Trish]

Hey it's been 5 months and he hasn't got his crap out of my garage.  Sooooooo I help myself to a break dance party.  I DANCE WHILE I BREAK HIS SHIT.  Feels good when I'm done.  He shows up to get a few things at a time and he sees it in piles in the garbage.  Gee maybe he should have come the day before my party right?  He could go to court and bust me for it, but he's too cheap to pay for that so I'm clear.  I used to be such a nice person, a calm person a person of "CAN I GET YOU SOMETHING?" He wanted no morals?  Fine he got me with no morals with his stuff now LOL.  That's how I'm dealing with this stress.  Oh that and a bunch of strippers that my friend got me just to cheer me up.  It didn't work but it was a nice thought.  OKAY FINE IT WORKED BUT STILL I WOULD NOT HAVE ENJOYED THAT IF I WAS MARRIED STILL.  Off to go hmmmmm (pause) break more of his stuff.  Later.

[Crystal_Blue_025]

Sounds like the scene from "Waiting to Exhale" - I LOVE that movie!

[TeddyR]

Hey it's been 5 months and he hasn't got his crap out of my garage.  Sooooooo I help myself to a break dance party.  I DANCE WHILE I BREAK HIS SHIT.  Feels good when I'm done. 

Off to go hmmmmm (pause) break more of his stuff.  Later.

Hey,sounds like excellent therapy!

[gdaisygirl]

Gosh, that is so funny!    I wish I could be that mean sometimes..unfortunately I don't have it in me

Gdaisy

[Beren]

So much for taking the high road.

Beren

[Trish]

No high road there in that department.  He has no problem picking up my ex secretaries shit from her house to bring to the house I picked out for him and I so I have no regrets.  He obviously doesn't care about all that much. 

[Beren]

"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind" -- Gandhi

It's not so much that I don't think he doesn't deserve it.  It's more that I just don't think it's good for people to mete out justice as they see fit.  Too often, it  descends into a contest of "who started it," which I find much more morally ambiguous than just sticking to the high road.  Not that I think that impressing me is one of your goals in life.

Beren

[temptress]

I did the something just as fun & even made some money off of it!  My ex left his video game console and collection of games and controlers and accessories and when he didn't take his stuff w/ him, I took it to a hobby store and traded it all for like $100 (actual money he spent on it was well over $500).  It felt great.  When I decided his clothes had been hanging in my closet too long I donated them to the second hand store.  He left some other belongings that I was able to sell on Ebay.  Use the money to buy something pretty like jewlery he'll notice when he sees you.  And don't worry about him taking you to court because unless he has a court order, possession is nine tenths of the law.

[Trish]

So would you like me to apologize Beren?  Really maybe one day I will but at that time, I just can't seem to get there.  He broke my heart and my 3 girls hearts and so I waited a good amount of time to ditch his crap.  I'm not his storage unit or his secretary.  Shoot he ran off with the secretary so as far as I'm concerned.  It's his problem.  Even my lawyer told him to get his crap out, he chose to take his sweet time while he went to concerts, and casinos and strip clubs.  I don't have any sympathy really.  But yeah I do agree with you, but I'm human and a human being that was treated less than one for so long can only take so much.  I'll apologize to Gandhi but not my Ex.   That's fair. 

[Trish]

At least I was honest.  I didn't come in here and pretend to put flower baskets together for the world of the hurting.  I do have a very clean garage now though.  Not all was lost.

I do agree with you on the point of humanity and how to act.  Just right now? I'm not in that place. 

[chaotic]

And don't worry about him taking you to court because unless he has a court order, possession is nine tenths of the law.

This is not quite true.  When my divorce was filed (she left and filed), I was told I could not do any of that.  Not that her lawyer put it in, but the courts have it on the standard paperwork that I could not destroy, sell or give away ANYTHING until an agreement was in place.  It made it tough on me having to look at her crap all over my house.

Now if the divorce paperwork has not been started.....alls fair in love and war.

[Trish]

I had it put in our divorce papers that he had x amount of days to get it all out.  He didn't do it and honestly he doesn't care anyhow.  He's just probably glad he stuck me with one more chore to do while he is out FEELING HIS FEELINGS all over my ex secretary.  Besides he is too lazy to take me to court.  I paid for the divorce he never even had to fork out a dime for anything so no worries there.  Sometimes dealing with a looser works in your favor LOL!

[teknoise]

Lol. I came very close to doing this same thing after the split! Some fine china got 'accidentally' broken when I placed it (read: threw it) in my back yard for her to pick up, as did some other minor things, but that was about it.

I did hear a good story about a guy who got cheated on. When he found out he cut the left hand sleeve off of every single one of his wife's pieces of clothing in her elaborate and enormous wardrobe. Apparently he destroyed thousands of dollars worth of clothes. Because it was on the left sleeve, she would not notice until she pulled the item off the rack. Wow.

[BigSky]

The song "Break Stuff" by Limp Bizkit comes to mind...dance to that, and get your girls on some rollerskates in the garage next time, could be a lot of fun!

[grendalkhan]

Just be careful guys - it's illegal in Canada.